Deciding when to have a baby is tough. Some people want to wait for the right time. I’m not sure there is a right time. Life is going to go on no matter when you decide to have a baby.
I don’t know what it’s like to have a baby any younger than 30. I’m here to tell you what it’s been like being first-time parents, of twins, at 30 years old. Here’s to having kids at 30!
The hardest thing about having kids at 30 was the adjustment of being kind of chained to home all the time. We lived for such a long time coming and going as we please.
Now we can’t even walk into the next room because we have to worry about the babies’ safety. You lose so much freedom so fast that you can’t believe this is your life.
There is no transition. It’s just like, BOOM, here they are, now think twice before you pee or eat breakfast.
This made me wish that I had kids when I was younger and living at home with my mother. I have such a big family that I’m sure they would have been a major part of care for the kids, without even asking.
It sounds depressing, and it definitely is if you’re going through postpartum depression. But you adjust, just like you would for any major event in your life.
You learn how to live life with them. You know when you have a minute to run to the bathroom and that breakfast will have to wait until their first nap.
Then there is the sleep issue. Everyone knows that when you have children you’re going to lose sleep. Point, blank, period. But when you’ve reached thirty without any kids you got used to a sleep schedule that you made up yourself.
I have some thyroid and adrenal problems so I get fatigued often. I was able to sleep at least 9 hours a night and nap every day when I came home. My husband went to bed every night on time. If he stayed up a little late then he made up for it with a nap the next day or an earlier bed time.
Yeah, not anymore. Naps are non-existent. That saying “nap when they nap” is a taunt. As if you were going to get three naps a day.
The problem is that when they nap, that is time to get everything else done. When they are awake you are spending every moment with them.
The same is true for when they fall asleep for the night. I try to straighten up our mess from the day, wash bottles and prep for the next day. It’s also my time to eat and wash. So not only do I not get to nap but I’m going to bed later than usual. A sleep schedule is a joke.
You know what, though, you survive. It’s hard. You’re past those long nights and early mornings you had in your twenties. You got used to coming home and watching the news before bed.
But those little sleeping bodies and cute smiles when they wake up are so worth everything you sacrifice. And one day they will know your pain.
When I was in my twenties I used to go out with my girlfriends and have a blast. Most of us didn’t have kids yet so we were out all the time with no cares. I am glad I got to have those experiences. It’s a little harder to have those experiences as much when you have kids.
Now my friends who had kids earlier are planning vacations and birthday outings. They have the opportunity to go anywhere because their children are older.
I’m just trying to find a babysitter so I can get out for three hours. I don’t think the babysitter nor my children could handle any longer than that. But I guess this is how my friends felt when we were out in our twenties.
So before kids, me and my husband were sort of on a journey to a healthier lifestyle. We had time to eat healthier and make protein shakes and get some kind of exercise in. It felt good to get healthy after destroying our health in our twenties with alcohol and junk food on the go.
After kids, I swore I was going to do what I had to do to continue our diet and exercise. Lack of sleep and time, that we’ve mentioned before, makes it hard. It took us six months to be able to stop eating frozen dinners and have some kind of meal almost every other night. We still don’t have enough time to really cook a good meal so you can only imagine how healthy our quick meals are.
Slowly, though, we are figuring how to incorporate healthier options into our diets. We both get a protein shake in the morning. My husband can get an afternoon workout in because he gets home before us. I may get a late night yoga session sometimes after the kids go to bed.
It’s All Good
I find that it’s harder to adjust to the hectic schedule of children when in your thirties. You had so many years to get comfortable doing your own thing in your own time. You had no one to be responsible for but yourself. Having children later in life is a big adjustment in short amount of time. But no matter when you do it, it’s worth it. You do adjust and life with them is more worry but so much more smiles and love. So here’s to having kids at 30!
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